The post title is seriously the only reaction I can muster to Naomi Wolf’s recent article “Is pornography driving men crazy?” Just “Oh, honey.” I mean, what else is there to say? Okay, you could do a thorough analysis of how badly Ms. Wolf is misunderstanding the brain chemistry involved, but first you’d have to get past the bemused head-shaking phase, and I’m just not there yet.
What baffles me the most about Ms. Wolf’s doubtless sincere and well-intentioned nonsensical horseshit is the assumption that pornography is something only men enjoy, and thus that “extreme” sexuality is also a male problem. I just… I literally can’t imagine where she’s getting her data, if it’s not prime-time sitcoms. Does Naomi Wolf not know more than, like, four women? Does she only know women who were raised in New Yorker cartoons?
To clarify, “extreme sexuality” means “any sex that Ward and June Cleaver weren’t having”, or alternately, “anything that would get you murdered on Law & Order: SVU“. Anything kinky, freaky, rough… any sex you can’t get advice for from Cosmopolitan. Naomi Wolf seems to honest-to-god believe that only men are into kinky sex, because only men like porn.
Ms. Wolf, do you know what a kinkmeme is? Do you know how strap-ons are selling these days? Do you know what M/M romance novels even are, much less who writes them? Have you read Katharine Gates? Or even Susie Bright? Or fucking Fandom!Secrets? What dusty antiquarian archive are you excavating your assumptions from, that you can sit there with what I presume to be an absolutely straight face and ask “Is pornography driving men crazy?” Every word in that question is based on a wrong assumption except for “is”. You don’t know what pornography is, who’s consuming it, how it’s affecting them, or what crazy is.
[Note to anyone using this post as a jumping-off place for their own research: if all you read is Fandom!Secrets, you will rapidly come to the conclusion that pornography is driving women crazy. This is sampling error; do more reading.]