Author Archives: aliarasthedaydreamer

About aliarasthedaydreamer

Aliaras is a giant nerd. Kinky, queer, and poly, she loves thinking about things and poking at them to see how they work. She’s currently in college learning the secrets of the universe (physics). While not arguing over the internet, she blows pixels up, draws, writes, cooks, and wanders around making the world a weirder place.

Your Occasional Gender-Essentialist Facepalmery

Posted on November 17, 2011 by aliarasthedaydreamer

I seem to have a talent for coming across steaming piles of gender-essentialist fail. Three tidbits of this, in the semi-recent past: First off, today, Nature published a turd of a fiction article, “Womanspace”. I found this via a Google+ … Continue reading →

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Holding on to the good: in praise of masculinity, femininity, and everything “normal”

Posted on August 15, 2011 by aliarasthedaydreamer

As people interested in gender equality, we (justifiably!) spend a lot of time criticizing The Way Things Are. Which is great! Part of the way things are undeniably sucks, and could be better. However, in doing all this, we can … Continue reading →

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Gendered Drinks and the Multiple Layers of “Privilege”

Posted on August 13, 2011 by aliarasthedaydreamer

I really enjoyed this article on judging people’s alcoholic drink preferences. It points out some pointless gendered bullshit, which is great, but it also provides a nice little representative sample of one area of privilege. On the one hand, the … Continue reading →

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And There Was Much Rejoicing

Posted on July 22, 2011 by aliarasthedaydreamer

Remember this dreadful Got Milk? campaign? Well, it’s gone! Via NPR: Calif. Milk Board Dumps Controversial PMS Campaign. Now that’s a nice way to end a week.

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Moving Beyond Privilege

Posted on July 21, 2011 by aliarasthedaydreamer

There’s this theory I’ve had for a while now, and it’s only crystallized over the past couple days as I’ve looked at a few different gender-related “privilege checklists”. So here goes: There exists a set of memes about men and … Continue reading →

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Semi-Open Thread II: Consent

Posted on July 19, 2011 by aliarasthedaydreamer

Commenters on my previous post requested a consent thread in which they could be on topic, so here it is. The discussion was about affirmative consent — is it practical? Should it be codified in law? In what ways? I’ll … Continue reading →

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Wait, how can the missionary position be forceful?

Posted on July 18, 2011 by aliarasthedaydreamer

TW here for graphic description of (consensual) violent sex. Relatedly, this post is not exactly SFW. So, on the Julian Assange case. I keep seeing people on the internet scoffing at the idea that he’s accused of using force on … Continue reading →

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And Also My Planned Parenthood

Posted on July 7, 2011 by aliarasthedaydreamer

I like how Planned Parenthood doesn’t assume a lot of things the broader culture does. They don’t assume you’re straight. They don’t assume your gender is the binary one you were assigned at birth. They don’t assume you’re in a … Continue reading →

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Semi-Open Thread: Gettin’ Laid

Posted on July 5, 2011 by aliarasthedaydreamer

In a lot of discussions in the comments of late, things have turned to the topic of gettin’ laid. There are some nasty memes about both genders — men are just looking for a warm hole to stick it in, … Continue reading →

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Sluts, Studs, and Creeps

Posted on June 20, 2011 by aliarasthedaydreamer

To continue the general recent thread of talking about male sexuality, I would like to highly recommend Clarisse Thorn’s article entitled “Men Don’t Deserve the Word ‘Creep’“. It addresses the ways in which male sexuality is often made out to … Continue reading →

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