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The Knight/Beast Dichotomy

Trigger warning for rape.  A fascinating article at Sociology in Focus describes the male equivalent of the virgin/whore dichotomy: the protector/rapist dichotomy. Women in our society get classified as either virgins or whores– that is, as pure and perfect wife-and-mother-material … Continue reading

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Harrowing Video About Male Abuse Survivor

(Hat tip to n1l0c2501.) Trigger warning for explicit depictions of abuse. Minor spoilers for the short film Life’s Poison, embedded at the bottom of the post.   I was recently pointed to Life’s Poison, a powerful short film made for the … Continue reading

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Good Consent Part Two

Trigger warning for discussion of rape, abuse and boundary violations. Knowing Your Boundaries This is the most important rule of boundaries: it is okay to set whatever boundaries you want. IT IS OKAY TO SET WHATEVER BOUNDARIES YOU WANT. Our … Continue reading

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Hugo Schwyzer!

Hugo Schwyzer has been very unpopular lately. A quick summary for those of us who don’t follow giant Internet slapfights while giggling: it started with Feministe, where the fabulous Clarisse Thorn cross-posted her interview with Hugo Schwyzer from Role/Reboot. The … Continue reading

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CDC’s National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey

Trigger warning for rape, abuse, sexual violence, and stalking. The CDC has recently released the results of a new, national, methodologically sound study about the prevalance of sexual violence and rape. Statistics, commentary, and angry ranting below.

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Strictly Moderated: October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month

I am saddened to say that October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. I have a few, scattered thoughts.

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Harrowing Tale of an Abused Man

From Tumblr: She complained that I had upset her by wanting to talk when she had told me she didn’t want to talk. As I began to feel uncomfortable, I said, “You’re saying it’s my fault you can’t express your … Continue reading

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The Pervocracy, on Domestic Abuse

Trigger warning for domestic abuse. Holly Pervocracy, a contributor to NSWATM, discusses the reasons why people stay in abusive relationships– and it’s not because they’re weak or stupid. I’ve excerpted the most important bits, but you should really go to the … Continue reading

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1 in 6

[Trigger Warning for rape.] One in six. According to the website 1in6.org, one in every six men has had an abusive or unwanted sexual experience before the age of sixteen. After I discovered this statistic, I’ve been doing the math. … Continue reading

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