Tag Archives: gender roles

Hegemonic Heterosexuality

Posted on February 6, 2012 by noahbrand

We’ve talked before about hegemonic masculinity, the constant societal drumbeat of nonsense about what a man is supposed to be. Tall, successful, competitive, into sports, violent, et cetera ad nauseam. What I’ve been thinking about lately is how this fits … Continue reading →

Posted in hegemonic heterosexuality, noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz, relationships, sexuality | Tagged gender policing, gender roles, misogyny, sexuality | 77 Comments

Melissa Tempel Is Doing It Right

Posted on December 21, 2011 by noahbrand

This inspiring article has been Tumblred and Facebooked and [whatever else you damn kids do when you’re not on my lawn] all over the place, and with good cause. It’s by a kindergarten teacher who’s taking simple, common-sense, nonthreatening steps … Continue reading →

Posted in education, gender identity, gender performativity, noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz | Tagged education, gender policing, gender roles | 10 Comments

Kurt Vonnegut vs. My Mom: Girls Are Dumb

Posted on December 6, 2011 by noahbrand

Beware what books you read when you’re fourteen. Wait… just about everyone reading this is long past fourteen. Too late, then. When I was fourteen, I read Jailbird, by Kurt Vonnegut, and it remains perhaps my favorite of his novels. … Continue reading →

Posted in noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz, relationships | Tagged family, gender roles, personal experience | 175 Comments

The Beauty Myth And The Success Myth: Ozy’s Law In Action

Posted on November 28, 2011 by noahbrand

Over Thanksgiving weekend, I was talking with my brother, and we were bemoaning something I’ve bemoaned with other men on many occasions: the bloody impossibility of convincing the women we love that they’re beautiful. Those with a woman that they … Continue reading →

Posted in body image, gender identity, noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz, relationships, success | Tagged body image, gender roles, myth of men not being hot, Ozy's Law | 73 Comments

Thanksgiving Gender Enforcement Jumble Sale

Posted on November 25, 2011 by noahbrand

Thanksgiving: a time to gather with people you love, and try to remember why. As we gather with our families around tables groaning with food, we’re going to hear things that would have sounded retrograde in the 50s, and as … Continue reading →

Posted in holiday, noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz | Tagged family, gender policing, gender roles | 34 Comments

Masculine Lore

Posted on November 11, 2011 by noahbrand

On a recent open thread, Ozy posted a picture of her “steampunk rakish dandy” costume as an example of “what sluts wear on Halloween”. I was deeply offended. Speaking as a rakish dandy, I feel that this costume misrepresents my … Continue reading →

Posted in education, emotion, gender identity, noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz | Tagged gender performativity, gender policing, gender roles, masculinity, personal experience | 63 Comments

Somebody Please Think For The Children

Posted on November 10, 2011 by noahbrand

One argument one hears a lot, especially when it comes to bullshit gender enforcement, is “But it will confuse the children!” We heard it about gay marriage (“Children won’t understand how someone can have two daddies or two mommies!”) and … Continue reading →

Posted in fatherhood, gender identity, noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz | Tagged fatherhood, gender policing, gender roles, stay-at-home | 53 Comments

A Fantastic Critique of Hanna Rosin’s “The End of Men”

Posted on October 5, 2011 by 2020

Following on from Noah’s link to Linda Holmes’ piece about how the new American network TV season is a flood of eye-searing misandry like How to be a Gentlemen, Man Up and Last Man Standing: Quiet Riot Girl gives her take … Continue reading →

Posted in economy, noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz, the media | Tagged gender roles, masculinity, misandry | 75 Comments

A Christian Writes About Sexual Damage

Posted on September 29, 2011 by noahbrand

Trigger warning for sexual mutilation and rape. Linksurfing around, I came across this remarkable and moving little memoir about growing up in a household where the parents followed the teachings of a particularly popular fundamentalist guru with a real fixation … Continue reading →