Tag Archives: personal experience

Kurt Vonnegut vs. My Mom: Girls Are Dumb

Posted on December 6, 2011 by noahbrand

Beware what books you read when you’re fourteen. Wait… just about everyone reading this is long past fourteen. Too late, then. When I was fourteen, I read Jailbird, by Kurt Vonnegut, and it remains perhaps my favorite of his novels. … Continue reading →

Posted in noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz, relationships | Tagged family, gender roles, personal experience | 175 Comments

Masculine Lore

Posted on November 11, 2011 by noahbrand

On a recent open thread, Ozy posted a picture of her “steampunk rakish dandy” costume as an example of “what sluts wear on Halloween”. I was deeply offended. Speaking as a rakish dandy, I feel that this costume misrepresents my … Continue reading →

Posted in education, emotion, gender identity, noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz | Tagged gender performativity, gender policing, gender roles, masculinity, personal experience | 63 Comments

Question For My Fellow Men

Posted on October 7, 2011 by noahbrand

Well, if we’re going to talk about men’s issues, let’s talk about men’s issues. What is the appeal of boxer shorts? I’ve never fully gotten this. I understand that they come in a variety of amusing and aesthetically interesting colors … Continue reading →

Posted in body image, lighthearted, noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz | Tagged penis, personal experience | 47 Comments

Interesting NYT Article On Boys and Friendship

Posted on September 23, 2011 by noahbrand

Just read this article in the New York Times about how boys who lose their best friendships growing up can turn into emotionally stunted men who have difficulty connecting with others. I’m not sure how well this connects to my … Continue reading →

Posted in emotion, noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz | Tagged personal experience | 9 Comments

Emotions: Threat or Menace?

Posted on July 28, 2011 by noahbrand

Dozens of posts on this blog so far, and we haven’t talked directly about what I see as the most pervasively damaging issue affecting men in our culture. It’s the one at the root of many of the other problems … Continue reading →

Posted in emotion, issues, noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz, relationships, violence | Tagged family, gender roles, masculinity, misandry, misandry in media, personal experience | 177 Comments

How Revenge Of The Nerds Ruined My Life

Posted on July 22, 2011 by noahbrand

[Trigger warning: Rape as comedy, rape culture. Also, this gets a bit personal and ranty. You might want to get comfortable.] I first saw Revenge Of The Nerds on home video, back when you could rent a VHS player in … Continue reading →

Posted in noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz, rape, rape culture, the media | Tagged body image, emotions, gender roles, masculinity, movies, personal experience, rape, sex objects, sexual assault, sexuality | 32 Comments

Sports: Talk Amongst Yourselves

Posted on July 20, 2011 by noahbrand

As a man, I am supposed to like sports. Specifically the subset of sports designated “manly”, but especially American football, as I am an American. I am assured of this fact by every commercial, every movie, every stand-up comedian’s laziest … Continue reading →

Posted in lighthearted, noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz, the media | Tagged gender roles, masculinity, personal experience, sports | 48 Comments

Strictly Moderated: My False Rape Accusation

Posted on July 17, 2011 by noahbrand

[Trigger warning: discussion of rape and false rape accusations.] [Troll warning: this is going to attract the kind of people who really, really like talking about false rape accusations. Comments will be STRICTLY MODERATED.] I picked my first college based … Continue reading →

Posted in noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz, rape | Tagged emotions, personal experience | 92 Comments

Why Pink Nail Polish Is A Masculist Issue

Posted on June 27, 2011 by ozymandias

Why the fuck can’t men wear pink nail polish? I have never actually been able to get a good answer to this. The conversation along those lines goes something like “because they’ll get laughed at,” and when I ask why they … Continue reading →

Posted in femmephobia, noseriouslywhatabouttehmenz | Tagged clothing, fashion, femmephobia, gender roles, life without limits, masculinity, myth of men not being hot, personal experience, success objects | 49 Comments

Happy Father’s Day

Posted on June 19, 2011 by ozymandias

Today I come to praise fathers and, in particular, I come to praise my father. For ten years, my father woke up every morning at 4 AM so he could be at work by 5. He gave up all chance … Continue reading →